All this thinking about my buttons (and goats) has me thinking. I've been doing the ABCDE of my goats and have gotten really far with that. It really does help to re frame the activating event. When I do it helps me to see how those things that bother me the most are also assets to my children. They are the things that will help them to be strong as teenagers and adults. They are the things that will help them to assert themselves as leaders and not allow themselves to be swayed by their peers.
The other thing that occurred to me, my aha moment, is that my children have their buttons, too. Never thought of that before now. That started me thinking about the things that I do that aggravate my children. For Sweet Girl it is saying just a minute. She knows it's going to be more than a minute, I know it's going to be more than a minute. Still I do lip service and she gets aggravated, rightfully so. I ask Sweetie Heart what hers was. She said when I keep saying the same thing over and over and over again. Admittedly, I do badger her...a lot. So I need to be aware of that and change. Of course, I shouldn't be badgering anyway.